Perks of Being an Introvert

 

 

 

I know that we’ve said this about anything and everything we purchased from the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale, but I think this sweater from Topshop might be my actual favorite. The color can look lilac in some photos and then grey in others, but it is so pretty regardless! Purple isn’t a color I typically lean towards, but one of my goals is to stop always buying neutrals, so this is a good start. I would size up in the cardigan for a looser fit. This exact cardigan is out of stock, but they should be restocking soon!

 

I was in GT (Gifted & Talented) from 2nd or 3rd grade until I moved to middle school, and it was always the highlight of my week! This was probably because we got pulled out of math time to go to GT, but we’ll just say it was because I loved to learn or something. If you’re not familiar with the program, it was basically a special class that you could be tested for and get into. There was a big emphasis on creative thinking, and we studied things that were not taught in a typical Common Core classroom.

(Ok after the longest explanation of GT ever…) I remember sitting in GT one day and our teacher told us we were going to do a questionnaire that would tell us if we were an introvert or an extrovert. After we counted up our answers, my score was something like 7% extrovert, and 93% introvert. Then, she read a list of character traits that associated with each one, and my little 3rd grader mind was blown, because all the introvert traits were totally me!

Over my 19 years of being an introvert, I’ve finally decided that it is a good thing! I think that introverts can easily get a bad reputation, but there seriously some good things. If you’re anything like me, you look at all of your extroverted friends and think, “Wow, I wish I could be outgoing and make friends as easily as she does.” Hopefully, this list can help you learn to appreciate your own introversion, as well as appreciates all your besties who are extroverted even more! 😉

 

1. It allows me to be objective.  

I think I spend about 80% of my day thinking of different scenarios my life could take. In my head, it’s a lot of, “If I have this many kids and I name them this, this, and this, and then when my future husband and I move here, I want to do this and this..” you get the idea. Although this does prevent me from me from getting things done sometimes, it can also be extremely helpful. I like to think that I am a good decision maker in that I really think through every angle of the situation before I decide what I’m going to do. Something that I have learned as I’ve gotten older is that rash decisions hardly ever turn out in anyone’s favor, so I thank my introversion for allowing me to sit and think about everything.  That being said, if you were to ask me what I want for dinner tonight, I would never be able to decide!

 

2. I don’t get bored easily.

For me, and for most introverts, I can get overstimulated very easily if I’m around people for too many hours in a day. My favorite thing to do is come home at the end of a long day and watch one of my favorite shows while curled up in bed. I am absolutely a homebody, and I have no shame, haha! I am also rarely bored being at home, or anywhere, alone. I actually enjoy it! When I’m at home, I am constantly writing new blog posts, discovering new places to shop online, or making lists of things to do or see. I become very easily engrossed in whatever I’m doing, to the point where I’ll look at my phone and realize I’ve been doing it for three hours without realizing it!

 

3. It allows me to be a good listener.

I always think before I speak, so I almost never say something that I don’t mean. The old saying, “You have two ears and one mouth so you can listen twice as much as you talk,” seems to ring extra true for introverts. When I was younger, I was painfully shy and quiet. I was the kid hiding behind my mom’s legs at playdates and crying when she left me. Even though I’m 19 years old now, I am definitely still on the quiet side. I like to think that it allows me to ‘listen between the lines’ so to speak. I make an effort to remember small details about those closest to me, because everyone loves to feel loved.

 

4. I am intensely curious.

I know this sounds odd, but I love to know things. I am incredibly nosy, so reading people’s blogs and watching Youtube videos are a huge source of entertainment for me. You can often find me in my bed watching strange documentaries (I’m watching The Keepers right now, SO GOOD), because I love to learn about random things that I would never learn otherwise. I have an extremely addictive personality, so I usually become fixated on a certain topic for a while until I exhaust my research on that topic. I just recently read this book, and now I am so excited to watch the new season of American Horror Story because it it about a cult.

 

5. I can be a great planner.

Making lists and planning for the future are some of my favorite activities. The notes page in my phone is full of lists, ranging from grocery lists, to a list of places I want to travel, to a list of baby names that I’ve been working on since I was in 8th grade (that’s six years, people). When I am going on a vacation, I am the one who wants every minute to be planned so that we can see and do everything the destination has to offer (I obviously struggle with serious FOMO). I have a 5-year, 10-year, and 20-year plan. Going to sleep without a plan for the next day makes me uneasy, and I hate uncertainty. Obviously, I can be a planner to a fault, but I do find that it comes in handy more often than not!

Speaking of nosy, I love to know everyones Meyers Brigg types! I am an ISFJ, and I am always researching ISFJ traits and am shocked at how on-point they are. If you don’t know yours, take this quiz and tell me in the comments what your type is so I can be nosy, haha!

My friends that are extroverts impress me everyday with their tenacity and their ability to excel in situations where I completely fail. However, us introvert girls can do pretty well for ourselves too! 😉 If you are an introvert, my hope for you is that one day you can learn to love it, and even appreciate it.

 

xoxo, Riley

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6 Responses
  • Silvija
    July 26, 2017

    Such a nice outfit! Love your bag

  • MacKenzie
    July 26, 2017

    I’m ETSJ. I love knowing these too😂 Love you guys and your blog❤️

  • Katisha @ Reel Literature
    July 26, 2017

    Yes to the Introvert Life!!!mI am a super planner, and I always seem to be the voice of reason and the sounding board for my friends. I’m an IXTJ…equally S and N. BTW…your outfit is SUPER cute! 🙂

  • Tiny Bird
    July 30, 2017

    Introvert for 29 years over here! I was in GT too. Totally the best part of school. I hated that it stopped in jr. high 🙁

    I completely agree with the advantages, and ended up marrying someone who is almost the exact opposite of my personality (if you’ve taken the MBTI, I’m an INFJ and my husband is an ESFP), so we really balance each other out. He keeps me from being a COMPLETE hermit lol!

    Have you taken the 16 personalities test? It’s really similar to the MBTI: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

    Also, super cute jacket!

    Tiny,
    http://www.tinybirdsnest.com

  • Tricia
    July 30, 2017

    Your article is so on point! I am an introvert as well..it always amazes me how people can say “I’m bored” Like you, my mind is always stimulated by something. I can’t really relate to being bored lol Great post!

  • Janiel
    July 31, 2017

    I totally relate to this post in so many ways. I’m more of an extroverted introvert. I don’t mind large crowds, but get me in a house party or group setting of more than 3 people but less than 30 and I clam up & feel like I need to run. lol. But as I’ve gotten older, I feel like I have become more of an introvert. Thanks for the article, guess its not so bad becoming an introvert after all.